I found love in fellowship with the Holy Spirit, God gradually changed and improved my life especially my thoughts and view of myself. Only love, true love can have the ability to help you move from feeling like a nobody to a somebody. Through all the difficulties and challenges I have experienced; I have found love to be such a healer, it eases the anxiety and rejuvenates hope. Feeling and knowing you are loved can change the way you perceive yourself and your life. Love can accept weaknesses (well, sometimes) and when that happens, it helps to affirm an individual, that they are not limited to their faults and weaknesses.
I want to share two scenarios that have proved to me that love, truly is a healer. The first instance was the internal job that I had avoided for years, i.e. loving myself. I was presented with many opportunities that held up a mirror towards me and I certainly did not like the picture I saw, it did not look like what I wanted for my present life or my future. So, I had to be accountable and take the necessary action to bring the much-desired change. And so, I started to allow God to fill up the empty places. At some point, I had to learn to do that too, to fill myself up with the much needed love and attention. Through this, I have learned the important balance of knowing when to give yourself or others love. I have healed from operating from an empty and broken place, and continue to heal daily. I keep reminding myself of the responsibility and privilege God has given, of loving and appreciating oneself, the daily decision to accept this mandate results in healing and health to our souls.
The second thing that proved to me that love is a healer is that God can bring strangers from near and far, strangers who see beyond what you present (the masks, shortcomings, walls and insecurity) and love you anyway. This form of love can bring healing because it is not performance-based as you have not done much for strangers to recognize the beauty of who you are. They simply find themselves loving you, seeing a part of God in you. It confirms to me that God will bring love to us, in any form or size and will allow you to experience a part of Him through other people, including strangers. As people give you love, it can teach you different and healthier ways of loving others- shaping you to become more versatile.
The problem with being emotionally wounded is that it limits your ability to love yourself and others because most times we may still be consumed with bitterness and anger. It heightens our walls as we are scared to get hurt again, understandably so. However, in the journey of life, we must get to a place where we let go of past hurts and allow a new narrative to navigate itself into our hearts.
After the aches and pains, we have experienced from disappointments we often see love as such a foreign and hard to reach concept. Our minds can hardly wrap themselves around going down that route again. But what if we did it wrong from the beginning, what if we gave too much when we should have learned to receive, or what if we were supposed to give of ourselves instead of waiting for our friends or lovers to give until they got tired? Either way, in love we learn to find the balance, that is what makes it healthy. I had the privilege of writing this paragraph whilst staring at the humongous mountains in the Drakensberg (KwaZulu Natal) and it occurred to me that when we are hurt, we see love as such a mountain, a far-off beauty that is hard to attain. We cannot relate to it because it can seem so lofty and sometimes too beautiful for our once broken hearts. My spirit was then challenged with the passage of scripture in Romans 8 which tells us that nothing in all creation would ever be able to separate us from the love of God, no height (mountains), nor depth, nor angels, demons, or whatever may be limiting your view of love. None of these obstacles would ever be able to keep God from loving us, and it should also not stop us from receiving God’s love or sharing that love with people in our lives. As I continue to admire these mountains, I find myself encouraged that this grandiose love is for you and me, that our perfect LORD and Saviour gave up His life so we can experience love in its purest form.
It is not so strange that love heals because the true sense of love represents all of whom our God is. He is love and a lover of our souls, when we continue to acquaint ourselves with Him and go deeper in our relationship with Him, He teaches us other places where we can find love, places different from what we have been accustomed to.
Today, I encourage you to allow love back into your life, starting with accepting God’s love, then the love from yourself, and eventually the love from others. When you have allowed it to happen in that order, it produces healthy outcomes. You can start small, such as visiting friends you have not interacted with in a long time, or going on that coffee date or even taking yourself out for ice-cream. Eventually this can lead to more courage for your heart to love again, courage for a fresh, new season of love. Love is a healer, only if you allow it to be.
“…Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love”. 1 Corinthians 13: 13 (The Message).